You can be anything you want when you grow up!

"You can be anything you want when you grow up!!!"

Liar.

No, actually you can't.   Because people will judge you.  Based on your appearance, your clothes, your weight, your age, etc.  All of these things add up.

A lifetime of telling a child to be 'herself'.  

Only to have it struck down again, by some 'authority' figure.

And I'm not mad, or anything.  Most of what was said here is true.

People will judge you.    Not only that but pass judgement over you.

Even though they say not to.

"Don't judge a book by it's cover!"

Isn't that what we also tell our kids and then become total hypocrites? 

Well, in theory, we all judge everyone, don't we?

Although we shouldn't do that, right?  We grow up and hear certain sayings, and then realize they don't mean diddly shit, or people don't act accordingly and follow this themselves.

How is it like that?  I mean, people go around saying shit, like these two statements and yet, almost nobody sticks to them!  Fables, I think they're called.

I got this report, heh.

And yes I agree with what was said, but to see it on paper, -- and to whom it was given, was even more impacting to me on what we judge people for --  even in a work environment.

So, basically, what's being said here is that, if she walked in wearing no eye makeup, or just lipstick or something, and wore a Christian cross that'd be fine.   BUT, because she looks that way, it makes people think she might be untrustworthy, but especially so in a place of employment.

I get it.  It's ok if you wear lipstick, but not eye makeup.   It's ok if you wear a cross, or a star, or any other religious icon but not a pentacle, because you're considered fucked up.

So, just change yourself to fit a mold and you will be fine.

"You can be anything you want when you grow up."
"Don't judge a book by it's cover."

I keep thinking these things, I've heard over and over again and then I realize it's not me, it's not her, it's mostly everyone else who is fucked up.    And I mean that in the nicest way possible.

When you go to a job interview, the whole purpose of the interview is whether or not you can actually do the job, no?

If you do have tattoos and weird hair and earrings, you're totally incompetent right?

Basically that's what folks are saying when they discriminate against those who don't look like them or may believe in something different than you.

Here are the laws.

http://www.eeoc.gov/facts/qanda.html

I just find it so, very fucked up that in this day and age people are judging books by their covers, still!  And you cannot be anything you want when you grow up without people judging you, and your employment skills for that matter.    I mean, you can be anything, except wear dark makeup and a wiccan necklace.    

Honestly....  I know I'm going to get some shit but I'm telling the truth here.  

I'd rather have a doctor full of tattoos -- that knows their stuff than some other person who doesn't have any and got the job --  and doesn't know shit.

I want the person who is QUALIFIED, I don't really care if they have pink hair.

Anyway, that's not the scariest part.

What scares me the most is that people will think this person is involved in some kind of-

something that doesn't sit right, because of personal decor.

Obviously these folks, have another thing coming to them because the most untrustworthy and deceitful and sketchy are those who keep things hidden and fit in so perfectly you can't even tell who they are.

At least people who dress and decorate themselves alternatively know themselves and don't need our approval.   If that's not leadership, I don't know what is?

So basically, if you look weird, you might be a psychopath or something.

HAAAHAAAAAAA!

Now back to the scary part.

Some people know that the most dangerous, and dishonest type people do their best to fit in.

But that's not all.   They do a really really good fucking job at fitting in.  

So much of an over achiever, a 'yes' man, a 'good ol boy'.... and so on.   So good at hiding in plain sight that nobody would ever know what they really are.

And everyone thinks they're great!!  Such charisma!  What talent!  How about that guy?

It's scary there is no instinct that is used anymore to let you know when a problem is actually a problem.   People have forgotten, and this is what gets folks in trouble.  

They do not use their actual instincts over a piece of fucking paper....  and that's when shit can really hit the fan.  

I'm using extreme examples here but, it's all true.

Don't judge people by their looks, we always say--  but it's non stop.  

That is how we judge, even if they say it's illegal to do, and wrong to do.

People still do it.  Sure do.

Whomever looks the most 'normal' and fits in where society feels they should be, is where they end up. 

 Clearly, some of these have been bad choices, by society.

  I'm not making this up, it's a fact.

So in essence, not only are we hypocrites, we also take away what we have given.

Such as,  (finish the actual sentence)

"You can be anything you want. - Except for in public, or in your place of employment, even both perhaps."

"You can be anything you want, as long as you don't look untrustworthy,- although we don't even know what that actually looks like yet."

"You can be anything you want,- except don't look different than anyone else because nobody will accept you."

"Just be yourself.... 

 Except for when yourself is not approved by societal standards, then go pretend to be someone else."

The photos are extreme examples of people fictional or not -whom have been placed in society by society, and pretty much worshipped by society although they did horrible type things.

They don't look weird or have funny make up on, or dress gothic, or look 'untrustworthy'.

Most do not know danger or a threat when they see it.  And I'm more scared of that than I am of tattoos and weird eye makeup.

And you can be anything you want,

except a girl with black eyeshadow and a pagan symbol on your neck.